Thursday, July 24, 2014

About Making Choices

One day, me and my boss were starting a random conversation. He suddenly asked me about why Asian kids seem like to follow whatever their parents wants. They always pick a "safe" major in college, so they can own a high position in a company, or they ended up to work for their parents company/business. So Asian kids sounds like don't have their own choice and live forever under their parents wings.
Note: my boss is Balinese.

Basically, our parents always want and give the best for their kids. They have a hope, someday we can contribute in our social circle in the future (istilah gaulnya jadi orang yang berguna buat masyarakat). That's why (sometimes) they have high expectations on us. So they try to "convince" us that their choices are the best, and that will make us ended up to study a major in college, based on their choices, such as medical, business, law, etc (if you are an Asian, you probably get it). Sounds familiar already? Hey you, my dear Asian friends? :P Let me share a true story.

Me and my brother have been that kind of situation before. I always wanted to study major like communication or journalistic, and my brother wanted to study music. At the end, I got my major in Chinese Education, while my brother still having fun (no, this is not a sarcasm thing) on his medical major. Before you judge anything on both of us, let me continue this story...

At the first place, I was mad and upset with myself and all the situations that made me "have" to choose the "study-in-china-with-a-major-I-never-wanted-before" option. But the only thing why I chose to study in China, just because I got full scholarship for 4 years, and that time, my family was going through a hard time. It was almost impossible for them to pay my college fee in private university, especially in Jakarta. I would call myself a fool if I didn't ever take this chance. I still remember when finally I was on my first year in college, I was grumbling almost everyday. Sometimes I forgot this was the choice that I've made, but yeah I made my choice clearly already, and the rest is a history.

The point is all about responsibility. Doesn't matter what choice that you've made, you have to be responsible for doing it. When my parents put their hope on me, I am also trying to "convince" them back that I am being resposible on my choice. Although I couldn't study the major I wanted, I still can learn about it on a world called internet. These days, you just google anything, and bam! You'll get what you need. Sometimes, I hate people who have a mindset like "kan kamu udah kuliah capek-capek dapet gelar, pulang malah jaga toko". I mean, helloooo, who are you? You don't have any permission to judge someone's life. And excuse me, have you ever started your own business, so you can say words like that? Well, as long as you are happy with your own choice, it is really okay. Make your parents proud, is another great bonus.

The funny part when my Mom always reminds me about someday I'll be thankful to her about anything that she has told me, and I guess she's right (gosh, mom is always right!). In early 2014, I was asked for being a Chinese tutor in a resort in Bali, because of my major. That's really something for me. And after that, I finally wrote and published my very first book. You see, I am doing my life here.

It is not about I am a Chinese or Asian and you aren't. It's all about our personal choice. Your life doesn't depend of what people say about you.

"In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibilty
-Eleanor Roosevelt 

If you are doing something right now that not even related to what you have studied in the past, I am telling you now, that's okay. Everything is fine as long as you enjoy them and being responsible, and in my case, I really want to always make my parents proud. I want to live my dream job, I want to keep doing my passion for the rest on my life. Your life is your choice. But still, your life purpose in on His hands, nothing is going to change them. Stay awesome! 

This is a video by CAPE (Coalition of Asian Pacifics in Entertaiment) for #IAmCampaign. Michelle Phan's is my favorite and her words is all about I am talking here. Watch more videos of this campaign on their channel, Wongfu is there too! 

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Pictures Perfect

"We are all made in different personality and we are unique by our own way. But one thing we know, God has made us become a family. And it wouldn't be changed forever." 

Monday, July 14, 2014

Monday Favorite Links

Happy Monday everyone, how was your day? I hope everything is going well. Feel super great since this morning when I woke up. And as I remember, I was even screaming "what a beautiful daaaaay!" when I just opened my eyes, and realized it was pretty gloomy outside hahaha. Whatever, I should do this every day because it really feels good. 

This happy-good-mood brought me here to post another Monday links. Some my favorite links for this past week and I think that would be great if I share them with you all. Sharing is loveee, right? So here we go! 

(1) Personal Branding by The College Prepster
I never thought about personal branding for this blog, but this old post from Carly was like a ringing bell for me. This blog has been running since early 2010, I slightly remembered why I decided to begin this blog, the point is, I want to take this blog seriously. I am kinda curious how I "publish" my trueself through this blog for all this time, so personal branding is kinda important. And about business card, I have mine already since  Jesrisoles was born (I feel so proud when I handed my first business card and everytime I meet someone for business requirement, I'll hand over my card :P), but still I want to make another one. Maybe another design with the title "blogger/writer/entrepreneur/" under my name. Awww. 

(2) "You never know who you're inspiring" by Maxie
This post is like a little morning call for me (thank you Maxie!). Beside thinking desperately about how we are going to inspire others, please note this. Everyone's watching you. Every move you make, every words you say, people pay attention to you. We never know that our life is important for someone. So, live well. 

(3) "Oh My Coffee" by Dinda Puspitasari
Dinda's blog is my new favoriteeeeee! I started to follow her on Instagram because she has those cute illustrations and personal style (gosh, such a talented girl!). This link is a random post I found, but I was like "oppssss" when I read it. Oh my coffee, maybe I should cut my caffeine too? ): 

(4) 7 Ways to Sleep Better Tonight 
My sleep hours is kinda messy since I have this crazy working shifts. I used to go for bed at eleven, but now is really impossible to go to the bed on that time. I am trying to stack my pillows well, sprinkling my body with bedtime powder for baby in lavender scent before sleep (sometimes it works), and listen to my piano instrument playlist. I was thinking to move over my bed, because the position right now is really close to my working desk, which is not really a comfort zone (because my phone, my tablet, my laptop are near my bed, duh!). Having a really beauty sleep is hard, if you are a good sleeper, you are so lucky. I promise when I finished this post, I am going straight to my bed.

(5) Bali's Best 5 Hidden Beaches 
Andreas sent me this link and he asked me to seek these beautiful hidden beaches, I said yes. Bali owns much of beautiful, gorgeous, and romantic beaches ever. Some of popular beaches are full of tourists and I almost cannot enjoy the real itself anymore. Andreas will be back next week here and wish us luck as a beach seeker!

Well, that's it. As my promise, I am ready to bed now. Have a good night people, don't forget to stay awesome in the next morning. Sweet dreams!

Saturday, July 5, 2014

10 Moving Secrets & Tips Living in Bali

The title sounds expert already. The truth is, I am not that expert about living in this city, but this place has given me lots of lessons in one year (praise to God!). There are still some hidden places need to be experienced. Some closest friends and family members asked me, "How does it feel living in Bali?" and my answer always be, "Oh, it feels like everyday is a holiday."

And I am not kidding.

I never thought I would live in Bali. The first time I visited this gorgeous place when I was 9 or 10 years old. Then, I had my second visit in my 15. The place never change, still beautiful still sexy as it is. Bali for me always a place for vacation, or for school graduation trip, and last but not least is for honeymoon. Now I find my family stay in here, is always something magical.

Well enough for my opening speech (tehee!), now as a celebration for my one year living in Bali, I decided to write this post. I hope you guys enjoy it as I do. 

1. Forget and leave your comfort zone. 
Moving into a new place is never easy. I have been three times with moving experience. The first one when my parents decided to move to a temporary place because they started a business, then when I was in college, when we moved to a new dormitory building, then the last one was last year.  It's really hard when we had created the comfort zone, where we are in right circle of people, we had our freedom, but then we have to leave them all and start a new one. So, just move your butt, lift your face and just let it go. Trust yourself, you are gonna have another good place to get moreee experiences!

2. People visit all the time.
People like your friends, family, your parents' friends, relatives. Just be prepared, especially when it comes to holiday season just like now. Bali is one of favorite getaway place and always in everyone's holiday list.
That's why I suggest you to do the next step...

3. Make a list of your favorite places in Bali.
So you won't get dizzy to give some good recommendations to them. From local restaurants, cafes, shopping places, and so much more. Sometimes they know even better about good places than me. Once my friend came and she asked me about one place that I never been there before. Then she teased me like, "you don't now that place? Man, you live here!" And I was like, "Duh, it's only one year for me," haha. Well that's a good thing too, we have a new thing in our list. Anyway, speaking of this point, I also make a list about my favorite place to eat in Bali (because I love to eat) and sure I will share it to you here next time!   

4. Budget everything. 
Lucky me, I stay in a same roof with my parents, so I don't have too much worries about what I have to eat today, money to pay a rent, and other else. But make a budget is still a must for me. I start to learn how to make a proper finance budget with my Mom since I got my first own income. When you start to budget everything, you still can buy a nice clothes and have some desserts at the end of month *justsayin* (:

5. Make friends with locals. 
This is why I decided to get a job in Starbucks and I am so thankful having some local friends now. It's awkward at the first time. We have different culture, we have different way to speak (most of local people speak Balinese and they own an accent), we have different habits. But, guess what, we decided to break those walls and start to make a friend with each other. They teach me some languages in Balinese, and I teach them some words in Chinese. My first month working at Starbucks was a nightmare (seriously), but the next month, I go to work with light step and joyful feeling. 

6. Get your own ride. 
In this case, a motorbike will be so much better. Traffic here is not too heavy like Jakarta (oh please). But if you want to visit places like in Seminyak, Kuta, Ubud-where there is so hard to park a car, motorbike is a rescuer. But first make sure you have your own a driver license and you can ride that motorbike. And last, be careful on the road. Have a safe trip to the beach!  

7. Think twice before you buy something. 
When I packed all of my stuffs before moving, gosh I was exhausted! I threw lots of things and some of them that I didn't ever know they were existed in my closet before. You just moved in, so think twice before you buy something. There is a huge different between the thing you need and the thing you want ((:  

8. Try local food. 
They won't hurt you, except you have some allergics. Local food always the best. When the first time I saw "Babi Guling (pig roast)" signs almost in every street's corner, I was like "ewhh". But when I tried it, I just can't stop. There are also another local food such like Ayam Betutu, Nasi Campur Bali, Jimbaran Seafood and so much more. If you decide to move here for some reasons, make sure you try all of these good stuffs!

One of my favorite food, they called it "Dirty Duck Diner".

9. Save your friends or other important numbers on your phone.
Your friends at work, your boss, your friends at local church, plumber's phone, etc. You don't know how much you will need them all.

10. Don't stop exploring and learning everyday. 
Like what I said before, a new place always gives you a permission to explore even more. Surprise yourself, surprise everyone with your existence. Speak out loud when its needed, never stop your feet to step out from the door, keep smiling when facing every problems. It's never gonna be easy I know, but you will see.
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